You know, people say you don't know a good thing until it's gone...but that's not the case with me and my best friend. The problem today with the title "best friend" is that it's thrown around so loosely that it has lost its specialness for the most part, but not in my case. My best friend has far more than earned her title, and I am so proud to call her mine.
It's funny how God knows your exact needs, even before you do. I didn't think I needed anyone new in my life until I met my best friend (I will refer to her as "A" for now). A didn't particularly seem anyone unusually amazing when I first met her, yet when I came home from meeting her at a party, I had this burning feeling deep inside that I just *had* to be her friend. And that's exactly what happened. Although the beginning of our friendship wasn't exactly ideal, we somehow got through the awkwardness of becoming good friends via texting and eventually that formed enough of a bond so that when we began spending time together in person it just felt right.
Fast forward a year and here we are. Now don't begin to think that this isn't a real friendship just because it's only a year old, we still have all of our lives ahead of us to grow closer to each other...and we will! In the past year A has taught me what it's like to be vulnerable. She has taught me how to be humble, and how to accept criticism without getting upset. She has taught me how not to take things or people for granted - especially those closest to me. She has taught me how to face my fears. She has taught me how to be confident. Most importantly, she has taught me how to love.
Now, the latter lesson A taught me ("how to love") wasn't just a lesson I learned in one sitting, it was quite the opposite. As a matter of fact, her mere existence and presence in my life helped me to overcome some painful things in my life that I couldn't seem to let go of until she came along - an indirect result of her love for me. Now, when I say that she taught me to love, I don't mean that I didn't know how to love before I met her, she simply taught me how I give and receive my love most effectively. She and I both are very needy when it comes to quality time with each other, and that's beneficial in the way that we are both very happy and content in each other's presence. The mere presence of A by my side gives me such peace and happiness and fills my heart with joy. I never thought I could love someone so immensely (future husband, prepare yourself) and yet this love for her just keeps growing!
The more I think about my relationship with A, the more I believe that her relationship with me is necessary preparation for when I'm dating the man I'm destined to marry. For example, A and I are both very strong-willed and stubborn individuals, we both like to stick to our own ideas and we really do tend to butt heads on various things. Although this is annoying at times, it is good preparation for marriage because she and I always have to work things out between us because we know that we want our friendship to last forever. Likewise in marriage, my husband and I will have to come to agreements on things that we may not see eye to eye on.
When someone asks me to tell them about A I get extremely excited because she honestly fills me with an immense amount of happiness! Everything from her adorable, shy smile to her beautiful, dark, curly hair is so easy to love and admire and I can't ever get enough of her sassy personality. She and I crack jokes and puns all the time and we have too many inside jokes to count. She makes me forget to look at my phone when I'm with her - something no one else has managed to do. She makes being a nerd a even more fun, because two (us) is better than one. And she makes me look forward to my future because I wouldn't want any other girl by my side for the rest of my life.
As a takeaway thought from this post - think about who you value most in your life and why? Think about the things they say or do that you absolutely adore and let those things be the reason you forgive their mistakes and the reason you can't stop loving them deeper and deeper every day.
"Faithful friends are a sturdy shelter: whoever finds one has found a treasure. Faithful friends are beyond price; no amount can balance their worth. Faithful friends are life-saving medicine; and those who fear the Lord will find them. Those who fear the Lord direct their friendship aright, for as they are, so are their neighbors also." Sirach 6:14-17
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